Are You There God? It’s me, Margaret.  By Judy Blume (1970)

                                                                                                            25 chapters

                                                                                                            149 pages

 

Chapter 1

 Are you there God…? Margaret is worried and anxious about leaving her family’s New York City apartment where she’s lived her whole life and moving to (fictional) Farbrook, New Jersey.

 

    As Margaret tells us in first person POV- she is an only child. Her father works in Manhattan. The new house is on Morningbird Lane is seven years old and it’s nice. Margaret suspects this uprooting from her private school and city life was to get her away from 60 year-old Sylvia Simon, her paternal Jewish grandmother who is helping out financially with Margaret’s education, knitting her sweaters and paying for summer camp (all unnecessary, Margaret informs us, as her parents are most certainly NOT poor!). Grandma also keeps asking Margaret about her Jewish boyfriend who doesn’t exist. (She’s not even twelve yet!)

 

Chapter 2

     First day in new house. A girl Margaret’s age, also starting sixth grade, knocks and introduces herself as Nancy Wheeler. She’s tall with great hair and a turned up nose. She’s come with an invitation to run under the sprinklers at her house. Margaret gets permission (her mom doesn’t even ask to MEET Nancy, just lets her daughter go-how’s that for 70’s free range parenting?) Margaret has to borrow one of Nancy’s swimsuits. Nancy acts very grown up. She has a secret stash of make-up and is already preparing to kiss boys and develop bosoms like the Playboy models. Margaret has nothing to add on any of these subjects. Nancy has long brown hair.

    Nancy’s mom, when Margaret is brought out to meet her, is 38. We learn Margaret lived on West 67th near Lincoln Center (part of the upper West side only two blocks north from Lincoln with Central Park on one side and Broadway on the other where no middle class family could afford to live today) Her father works in insurance. Apparently everyone goes to a Christian church, or Jewish temple here. When Margaret informs them she is a “none” they look at her like she’s from Mars while Nancy shouts how lucky Margaret is.

    Nancy has a 14 year old brother named Evan who turns the lawn sprinkler up full blast as they’re standing under it. Nancy gets upset and runs inside to tattle. Evan and his friend Moose Freed (who informs Margaret he runs a lawn cutting service) try to chat Margaret up. Nancy walks Margaret home, telling her to call her and they can walk to school together on the first day. She also instructs her to wear loafers but NO SOCKS. Apparently Nancy is forming a no-sock club.

   That night, Margaret lies in bed, first night in new house, out of her element, with all the strange sounds and shadows.

    Are you there God…? Our new house is kinda creepy. New friend Nancy is very mature, so maybe You could arrange for that maturity growth spurt soon? Thanks.

    Margaret informs the reader her parents have no idea she does this (praying aloud or in her mind to an unknown God) and she’ll never tell lest they think she’s turned “born again.”

 

Chapter 3

       Second evening in new house. Dinner is take-out from the local deli, her dad (the novice suburbanite!) has an accident with the new lawn mower. Margaret says a silent prayer in the police car on their way to the hospital. Are you there God…? She begs God to let her father live-she’ll do anything God wants, just let him be okay! He ends up getting eight stitches. Dr. Potter who treats him comments he also has a daughter Margaret’s age starting at Deleno Elementary School next week. Maybe they’ll be in the same class…

   On Labor Day Monday, Margaret gets up early to organize her school supplies when she hears a quiet knocking on the front door. It’s Grandma! She brought lots of NY deli and took the train plus a taxi to get to the Jersey suburbs. Margaret is glad to see her and takes her on a tour of the house. When her parents-Herb and Barbara-wake up, Margaret informs them of their guest. They pretend to be pleased and surprised. Grandma is only here to see her favorite (only?) granddaughter. They eat the food she brought for dinner and take her to the train station later. Grandma and Margaret have conspired to talk on the phone every evening at 7:30 and, Margaret informs her parents, she’ll be coming into the city to visit Grandma at least twice a month. Just your stereotypical Jewish relation.

 Chapter 4

     On the night before the first day of school, Margaret tells us her mother helped her wash her hair and set it in rollers which Margaret removed as they were too uncomfortable to sleep in. She dresses in a blue plaid cotton dress which her mother says brings out the color of her eyes but frowns at her daughter’s choice of no-sock loafers. Margaret just rolls her eyes along with everything else her mother nags her about-“stand up straight, wash your face…” but by the time she gets to school, she’s regretting listening to Nancy especially when she sees half the girls are wearing socks after all! The tallest girl in the room, a beautiful cat-eyed, well-endowed giant, obviously wearing a bra, Margaret almost mistakes for the teacher. 

    A man enters and writes his name on the board-Miles J Benedict Jr. Margaret observes Nancy who practically swoons. A male teacher! He’s obviously very uncomfortable. A new graduate of Columbia Teacher’s College in NYC he openly admits to the class that this is his first teaching position. Margaret feels a little sorry for him but does her best to answer the five getting-to-know-you questions he wrote on the board along with his name. We learn Margaret’s full name is Margaret Ann Simon-called Margaret. She likes: long hair, tuna, the smell of rain and the color pink. She hates: pimples, baked potatoes, when mother is mad and religious holidays. Completely clueless over how to answer the final question she opines that she thinks male teachers are the opposite of female teachers.

     After school, her mom is all ready to get cozy and talk about Margaret’s first day of school. Margaret informs her mother she’s been invited to Nancy’s to join her “secret club” and that her new teacher is a man. She changes into shorts and a polo (informal short-sleeved cotton shirt with a collar, and a placket of 2-3 buttons-think LaVar Burton from Reading Rainbow and, yes, you are that old!) and walks over to Nancy’s.

Chapter 5

     Nancy’s “secret club” consists of just two other girls-Janie Loomis and Gretchen Potter (daughter of the doctor who stitched up Mr. Simon). The four girls gather on the front porch where Nancy serves them Cokes and Oreos. Margaret observes Gretchen helping herself to six cookies before being called out by Nancy on her summer weight gain. Every comment Margaret makes is either shot down or laughed at by the other girls. To her embarrassment, Margaret learns Laura Danker is the large, already developing, gorgeous blonde she mistook for the teacher. Nancy and her friends pretty much call Laura a menstruating whore (she makes out with all the boys behind the local A&P-everybody knows THAT! The East coast based Atlantic & Pacific Tea company pre-Wal-Mart grocery store chain closed its doors in 2015.)

      Unlike Laura, all of them admit they still haven’t gotten “it” yet. Margret admits she doesn’t even know what “it” means and they have to practically spell it out for her. When Margaret wonders aloud if Laura whores herself up on purpose, they all laugh at her. The subject turns to the new teacher-CUTE! Squeee! Margaret wonders aloud if he’s married. (the only non-idiot comment Margaret made along with, “You mean he asked us those questions to find out if we’re normal?”)

     Next the girls take turns making up rules for the new club and trying to come up with a sensational name for themselves (Mean Girls anyone?) Nancy proposes they call themselves the four PTS’s (Pre-Teen SENSATIONS!!!) which is unanimously accepted. She also gives everyone new, sensational, names that they will stop using by chapter 11.

     Nancy’s rule is bras. Gretchen-whoever gets her period first has to reveal all. Janie-Boy Books. Margaret…Um, we meet on a certain day each week to hold our club meeting? Monday is chosen but only because it’s the only day everyone has free from extra-curricular activities. We learn Gretchen is Jewish because she has to attend Hebrew school twice a week. They ask Margaret which religion she belongs to. Nancy comments Margaret is anti-Sunday School-a “none.” Everyone stares, slack-jawed, at Margaret who just shrugs. They press her for her story and she tells it: Dad was born classic New York Jewish, Ohio Mom Christian, they met, fell in love and against the desires of both families eloped and are now raising their only daughter without any religion.

     The girls are aghast-how will Margaret know whether she wants to join the Y or Jewish Community Center? Round here, everyone belongs to either one or the other. Margaret shrugs; glad she won’t have to pick such a life-altering identity until she’s older.

    At bedtime that night, hiding under the covers, Margaret blurts out to her Mom she wants to wear a bra. Surprised, mom agrees and leaves the room so Margaret can say her secret prayer to God. Are you there God? Help me grow in that “you-know-where” place. And by the way, Nancy and all her friends are either of the Christian or Jewish faiths-which one am I, er, which one are YOU? Never mind.

 Chapter 6

     We learn Margaret has a trick of raising her right eyebrow at people who ask annoying questions. She does this when Mr. Benedict calls her up to his desk and asks her why she wrote that she hates religious holidays on her getting to know you sheet? Margaret tries to brush it off, explaining her parents are raising her as a “none” right now but she can choose a religion when she grows up. Mr. B dismisses her and Margaret returns to her desk hoping her teacher thinks she’s “normal.”

    The weekend arrives. Moose Freed has been hired to cut the Simons’ lawn. Margaret is obviously crushing on him as she pretends to read a book on the lawn chair next to her father who is pouting behind his newspaper with his still bandaged finger. Mom and Margaret go to a Lord & Taylor department store (like A&P this is another East coast store that opened in the 1850’s and as of 2019-has announced its official closing) where Margaret wants to die of embarrassment. Bra-shopping with her Mom! She endures being measured by an ancient female clerk. In the dressing room Mom has to help her with both the Dacron and itchy lace contraptions. Margaret declares the softer bra the winner. At the counter who should they meet but Jamie who giggles behind a pile of new bras while declaring she and her mom are actually here shopping for winter PJs. Margaret goes with it, “Yeah…PJs…me too!” and makes a hasty exit.

 Chapter 7

     Margaret studies all the boys in her class before choosing two for her Boy Book. Alpha male, Phillip Leroy, is first. She already experimented in her room with stuffing her new bra with socks to see what she’d look like with bosoms. Mr. B announces he’s throwing out the entire core-curriculum and assigning the class a year-long, confidential, individual project of their choice. The class groans. Margaret wonders how long this guy’ll last before being submarined.  

    At the next club meeting, Nancy proudly declares she is the only one wearing a 32AA. The others are still stuck with training bras. She teaches them a stretching exercise and they all do it together, along with a chant to boost self-esteem. They all listed Phillip Leroy as first choice in their book but when Nancy questions Margaret about her second choice, an annoyed Margaret raises her right eyebrow at her. Nancy didn’t ask the others about their second choices! They exit Nancy’s bedroom to find Evan and Moose waiting to tease them about their bust-increasing exercises, ROTF laughing so hard Margaret secretly hopes they both wet themselves.

   At school, the campaign to bring down Mr. B has started with a “peep” which everyone in class participates in while their teacher wanders all over the room trying to figure out where it’s coming from. Nancy kicks Margaret under her desk. Fearing the social repercussions, Margaret pretends to correct one of the math quiz problems to hide her “peep” contribution.

    Next day, everyone’s desks have been rearranged. To Margaret’s dismay, she is no longer next to Nancy but between class bully Freddy “the Lobster” Barnett (nicknamed because of his first-day sunburn) and…Laura Danker! Margaret tries not to freak out about this new seating arrangement that will most certainly affect her social status.

    In gym class, the boys are taken off to do boy things while the girls are warned about the “just-for-girls sex talk” that will be given later in the year (on Maturity Day?). That night, Margaret hits the books in preparation for tomorrow’s big social studies test concluding with 35 stretches to increase her bust and climbs into bed to say her prayers. Are you there God?...Sure would be nice to have something to put in my new bra. Please let me do well on my test tomorrow so You can be proud of me. Thanks.

    Next day, as the test papers are being passed out, Freddy the Lobster whispers to Margaret that nobody will be signing their name. Again, fearing the peer pressure, Margaret turns in her test with no name, mourning how all her hard work was for nothing but also curious if Mr. B will simply expel the entire class as punishment. We are not told if the test was multiple choice or essay. Margaret answered all the questions in less than fifteen minutes.

Chapter 8

    Next day, to Margaret’s relief, everybody’s tests are on their desks, each with a name and the correct grade. Teacher finally scored a point! Margaret got an A, Freddy got a D. Margaret decides the topic of her individual project will be a study on religion ending in her Final Answer on which one she will dedicate her life to. She says a quick prayer to God about her decision. Are you there, God?...I’ve decided to do a study on religion. I promise to clear everything with you first but I really think it’s time I decide what I want to be. After all, I can’t go on being a “none” forever…right?

      That Saturday is Margaret’s first solo trip into the city to meet Grandma for lunch and a concert at Lincoln Center as part of their “conspiracy” against Margaret’s parents to spend more time together. She manages the bus trip without getting mugged. Grandma compliments Margaret on her hair (she’s trying to grow it out) while Margaret observes Grandma’s green eye shadow and ever changing hair color. This month it’s silver blonde. Over lunch, Margaret is pleased when Grandma tells her the new training bra she’s wearing makes her look “much older.”

     Just before parting at the bus terminal, Margaret, wanting to start her project assignment right away, asks Grandma if she could attend Temple with her sometime. Incredulous, Grandma stares at her favorite grandchild while Margaret is quick to explain herself. No, she’s not interested in converting. She just wants to see what it’s like. Grandma bursts into tears anyway and hugs her. She just KNEW Margaret was a kosher girl at heart! Margaret will come with her to Temple on Rosh Hashanah. Grandma can hardly wait! She runs right home to call the rabbi.

    Margaret has to explain to her parents that, no, Grandma did not brainwash her into wanting to attend a Jewish service with her. She’s curious about other religions is all. She intends to try Christian services next, so don’t try to stop her! Her parents give permission, albeit reluctantly.

    On the morning of Rosh Hashanah: Are you there God?...Good morning. Well, this is it. Today is the day I’m going to try religion for the first time. My parents think I’m crazy, but I’m going anyway. I’ll look for you in temple today…

 Chapter 9

        All dressed up, Margaret is sweating to death in her hat and white gloves. She meets up with Grandma at the bus terminal. At temple service, the yarmulke-wearing rabbi conducts the meeting which is hard for Margaret to follow with all the standing up, sitting down, and reading aloud together in English from a prayer book. Margaret notices Grandma reciting Hebrew along with the rabbi. The choir sings. One hour later the sermon begins and Margaret gives up entirely, keeping herself awake by counting and cataloging the different hats. After a closing song (in Hebrew) Grandma hustles Margaret up to the stage to meet the young Rabbi Kellerman. Margaret politely replies how much she loved the service.

    Margaret tells the reader she got the third degree from her parents when she gets home but it’s really not that bad. Her father jokes with her how as a kid he used to pass the boring service time like she did-counting hats!

     Are you there God?...Well, I’m on my way! By next year I’ll know everything there is to know about religion and what I should be-Jewish or Christian-then I can be just like everyone else.

 Chapter 10

 It is now the first week in November. Three important things happen:

 1. Laura Danker wears a sweater to school for the first time and all the males in class including Mr. B. can’t help but notice. Freddy the Lobster nudges Margaret asking why she can’t fill in a sweater like that?

 2. Margaret tries Janie’s Presbyterian Church service. Very similar to temple with Grandma-lots of reading from a prayer book, another sermon Margaret can’t follow and more counting of hats with a closing song to end the Sunday service. To Margaret’s embarrassment, Janie introduces her to the minister as her friend who is a “none.” The minister drools greedily, pumping Margaret’s hand, exhorting her to come again. She thanks him.

     Are you there God?...I went to church but nothing happened. I’ll try harder next time.

3. For the next two weeks, the entire sixth grade gym class will be preparing for a big fall dance, a square dance! Nancy informs her friends because her mother is on the committee she can pull some strings *cough-dance partners-cough* and do her best to pair everyone up. Except Phillip Leroy can’t be split four ways! As the tallest girl in the class, Laura Danker is always used by Mr. B to demonstrate new steps which does not go unnoticed by Margaret and her friends who have to avoid their own foot-stepping partners. On the day of the dance, Margaret dresses in her new skirt and blouse.

     Are you there God?...I’d really, really really like to score with handsome (tallest boy in class) Philip Leroy this afternoon as a dance partner. Pretty please? Thank you.

    At the dance Nancy’s mom, along with the rest of the chaperones, are ready for a hoedown in their dungarees (just a fancy way of saying bib-and-brace overalls) plaid shirts and big straw hats. Margaret thinks they look ridiculous.

    After dodging all the loser boys, Freddy included, Margaret (at last!) gets paired with Phillip Leroy taking him away from Nancy who pouts. He turns out to be a foot stepper and makes her hands sweat so bad she wipes them on her skirt.

   Back in Chapter 2 we learned Margaret’s mom is a still-life painting stay-at-home-housewife. She picks Margaret up in the new second family car (a green Chevy we are not told what model) that Margaret tells us her Mom kept nagging dad to buy until he finally gave in. They ARE pretty well off.

 Chapter 11

    Forget the secret names, Margaret tells us, too confusing. The Boy Books are getting redundant because nobody, except Nancy (who listed 18 boys on the first day) can bring themselves to remove Philip Leroy as #1. Margaret wonders if maybe Janie and Gretchen are afraid to admit their true #1 crushes. It is the first week in December. Today’s meeting is being held in Margaret’s bedroom with the door securely barricaded. Today’s subject is male anatomy. (thx Gretchen’s father!) The curious explorers huddle around the stolen medical book, fascinated at the forbidden pictures. Nancy and Gretchen both admit their brother and father often stroll around the house naked so this is nothing new. Janie declares she’ll never walk around naked-even after she gets married. Nancy calls her a prude. Margaret volunteers to sneak out and grab her father’s hidden copy of Playboy-she knows where he keeps it. She is nervous but, she justifies swiping the glossy from her parent’s nightstand drawer, if it was so wrong her father wouldn’t have it in the house…right?

    The girls exclaim over the sizes of the centerfold model and wonder if they’ll ever look like that at eighteen. All agree Laura Danker probably will…someday.

They end with fifty round of stretching exercises.

Chapter 12

    Since Dad is Jewish the Simon home doesn’t really celebrate Christmas, except the exchanging of presents of course but her mother always sends out cards to old childhood friends.  One day, just before Christmas, Margaret discovers a pile of these ready-to-mail Christmas Holiday Greeting cards with one card addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Paul Hutchins, the estranged Ohio parents (foreshadowing!) and wonders what the heck is going on?! Mom and grandparents haven’t communicated, like, at all, in fourteen years.

    Mr. B’s class is the choir for the school Christmas/Hanukkah program. Despite being a “none” Margaret sings all the required songs but some kids refuse to sing certain songs, claiming it’s against their religion. They even bring notes from home to get out of it. Margaret observes all of this…

    Are you there God?...I’m giving a lot of thought to both Christmas and Hanukkah this year. Perhaps one will become special for me. I’m really thinking hard about it…

     Despite it being a mixed religious program, the story of Mary and Joseph is told, because as Margaret tells us, one little kindergartener wet his pants in his chair right in front of Margaret and Janie who had to choke back their mirth while singing “Away in a Manger” or something.

   After the program, school is dismissed for the holiday break. When she walks in the door, Mom informs Margaret she has a letter…

 Chapter 13

    It’s an invitation to a fancy, dress up, supper party at the home of Norman Fishbein. Margaret can’t believe it. While Norman is a nice enough guy in their class, he’s a LOSER! “the biggest drip in our class,” Margaret describes him. The phone immediately rings and it’s Nancy. Norman invited the ENTIRE sixth grade class-all 28 of them. (What were his parents thinking?)

   Like typical pre-teens, on the day of the party, the four girls call each other about every single detail: what they will wear, which parent will chauffer, and who will sleep over at each other’s house afterward since they’ll be getting home so late. Nancy will sleep over at Margaret’s.

   Early afternoon, Margaret’s mom gives her a full out pampering: washes her hair-cream rinse included-sets it in rollers, files her nails while she sits under the dryer before sending her daughter to her room to get some beauty sleep. Too keyed-up to rest, Margaret stands naked on a chair in front of her mirror wondering if she’s ever going to fill out.

    Are you there God…? I hate to remind you (AGAIN) and I know you’re busy but I could really use a little help here…

     Pause prayer

Margaret hops down off the chair, grabs some cotton balls from the bathroom, dresses in her party clothes and secludes herself in her closet. Heart hammering, she stuffs the cotton balls in her training bra then steps back onto the chair in front of the mirror to admire the effect. She’s thrilled.

    Are you still there God? Check THIS out! THIS is what I need to look like. I’ll help clear the table every night for a month at least…!

 Chapter 14

     Mom brushes out Margaret’s freshly curled hair. While waiting for Mr. Wheeler to pick her up, she and her parents exchange cheesy “knowing” smiles, as if she’s going to a virginity party. In the car, Janie also has a new hairstyle-her mom marched her to the salon and next thing Janie knew, she had a pixie cut.

    The Fishbeins must be pretty loaded-the house is HUGE. After Mrs. Fishbein hands their coats to a maid, Nancy leads Margaret through four rooms with fancy, modern furniture, before descending down some stairs to the Rec-room where the rest of their class has already gathered. Laura Danker in her soft, airy, pink dress looks gorgeous. The food is served: tiny party sandwiches, franks & beans, and potato salad.  Dessert is cupcakes. With no chaperone, the boys start blowing mustard through their straws up at the ceiling and make a big mess. Naturally, Mrs. Fishbein is not pleased. Freddy mimics her “sweet, well behaved girls” comment (because everyone knows girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice). Deeply offended, Nancy stands up and starts yelling at him. Freddy grabs her dress, accidently inducing a sexual assault which tattletale Nancy marches upstairs to report to Mrs. Fishbein who chews them all out, including the girls-mincing no words-accusing them of hanky-panky and abominable, shocking behavior! She exits in a huff. Everyone giggles and the tension is broken.

       Norman, the host, suggests they all play (kissing) games to stay out of trouble. The girls all vote nay for “Guess Who” the game where boys grope the girls in the dark in attempt to find out who’s who. Margaret, thinking of those cotton balls in her bra, sighs with relief. They play “Spin the Bottle” instead. But before Margaret gets a turn, one of the boys suggests they play “Two Minutes in the Bathroom” where everyone picks a number then odd-number boy or even-number girl call out a number, they have to go into the dark room together and…well…you know.

     Margaret draws twelve from the bowl. Norman goes first calling out sixteen who turns out to be a delighted Gretchen. They go in and come right back out to groans and boos but Norman defends himself-you don’t have to stay the entire two minutes. Gretchen picks number three and gets Freddy which Margaret makes a mental note not to call when it’s her turn. Freddy gets Laura Danker, much to everyone’s amusement. Margaret imagines Freddy standing on the toilet just to reach her lips and can’t stop laughing with everyone else. Both come out with red faces which (for someone rumored to have already made out with every boy in school behind the local drugstore) Margaret thinks is pretty funny. Still blushing with embarrassment, Laura calls seven which turns out to be Philip Leroy who flashes a very self-satisfied grin at the other boys before sauntering into the bathroom. When they exit, Philip Leroy is still smiling. Laura isn’t. Margaret is so distracted by this; she doesn’t realize Philip just called twelve.

     In a daze, Margaret follows him into the room where the door is shut and Margaret gets the giggles. She shuts up real fast when Philip informs her he intends to kiss her on the mouth which he does twice. It’s fast, with no time for her to even think about it. Suddenly she is back out in the party room and can’t even remember Philip’s number so she can call him back and show him just how much Nancy taught her. So she calls nine and gets the party host himself! Looking very pleased, Norman grins at his guests before practically running into the bathroom. For such a loser guy, Norman is not Philip. After confessing how much he really likes her, he asks Margaret how she’d like him to kiss her and complies with her cheek. He’s a gentleman about it, yet Margaret can’t get out of there fast enough. She’s done.

   That night, Nancy grills Margaret about Philip’s technique. Margaret lies about how many times Philip Leroy kissed her, “Five, I lost count,” accepts Nancy’s congrats and falls asleep.

Chapter 15

    Margaret attends Christmas Eve services with the Wheelers who are Methodist. Much to Margaret’s relief not only is there no sermon, she’s not even expected to meet the minister. The choir sang and that was it. Margaret doesn’t get home until after midnight where she falls into bed without even brushing her teeth. She does manage to stay awake to say her prayer to God though…Are you there God?...The service I just came back from was nice, but…where WERE You? I didn’t feel anything at all. Which church should I join? I’m so confused…

     A true snowbird, Grandma phones every night from Florida where she’s traveling to escape the cold. All three family members have nothing interesting to report-We’re all fine, school’s fine, and YES Margaret is just fine.

      The second Friday in January is “Maturity Day” when the boys have a separate meeting with their male gym teacher while the girls are marched into the auditorium to watch “The Big Deal Sex Movie” about “menstroooo-ation” brought to you by the Private Lady Company. There’s a Q&A afterwards with the presenter but Nancy’s question about Tampax is quickly shot down. For days afterward the four girls mouth the word “menstroo-ation” at each other during class and guffaw while Mr. B has to constantly get after them to stop giggling and focus on their studies.

     Not long after that, the girls hold a Very Special PTS meeting because Gretchen got it. They beg for details but, Gretchen reports, there’s not much to tell. Her mother was completely unprepared. They had to “Uber-deliver” pads from the neighborhood drugstore which took an hour. Then her mother had to show her how to attach the pad to the belt. Wise Mom did not get her daughter the Private Lady but another fictional product called Teenage Softies. While it’s not painful, Gretchen admits she did have some cramps last night and her mother warned her she’d have to start dieting and wash her face every night from now on-with soap. That’s all. The girls groan. What a let-down.

   Margaret is more worried now than ever. She questions her mom about when she might get her period-no way she’s waiting until fourteen!!! she’ll be an old maid by then and her friends will all dump her! Mom promises Margaret she’ll turn out normal.

   Are you there, God?...Well, Gretchen Potter got hers. What about ME, God? Please! I just want to be normal like everyone else-Help.

    During President’s Day weekend in February, Nancy goes out of town with her family. Margaret gets a postcard from her with only three words…I GOT IT!!! Margaret rips up the card and runs to her room for a good cry.

    Are you there, God?...I hate my life. I’m going to be the only one in the entire world who doesn’t get her period just like I’m the only female “none” in the world. Why don’t you help me? Haven’t I been good? Please God…

 Chapter 16

    This chapter consists of three letters. Margaret writes Grandma about having to use that month’s Lincoln Center season ticket subscription with her Mom who didn’t let her sit by the fountain outside like they always do and made her wear her uncomfortable (and hot!) boots the entire time. No fun.

   Grandma writes back she’s met a single, widowed, man and she’s going to pull some strings to get her parents to agree to let her fly down for a “Spring Break-Miami” trip. Margaret has never been so excited in her life and writes Grandma back, telling her so.

Chapter 17

    Remember those station wagons with the third backward-facing seat? (My family had one growing up in the early 80's) Margaret is invited to spend the day in New York City with the Wheelers. Evan brings Moose as his guest. They ride in the very back. Margaret is still crushing on Moose as she wishes she was the one sharing the third seat with him but she gets carsick riding backwards. They see a show at Radio City Music Hall and eat out at a fancy steak place afterwards. After ordering, Margaret and Nancy have to go to the bathroom where Nancy, locked in her stall, starts freaking out. She wants her Mom. Margaret fetches her. Since Nancy is too busy sobbing on the toilet, Margaret has to gather her skirt in order to crawl under the stall door and unlock it for Mrs. Wheeler. Then she has to buy a sanitary napkin from the dispenser with the change Mrs. Wheeler hands her. Apparently, Nancy just got her period-the postcard she sent Margaret was a lie. Margaret can’t believe it! Instead of feeling anger, Margaret just feels pity. She wanted her period too, but not enough to lie to her friends about it. Nancy begs Margaret not to tell the other girls. She honestly thought she really did get it last month but she was wrong (Not necessarily! She could discharge something and mistaken it for menarche.)

    Margaret sits next to Moose, who smells divine! She blushes every time his left elbow and her right keep bumping each other as they attack their steaks.

     Are you there, God? Can you believe that Nancy? Lying about getting her period. I’ll be patient now, God and if you ever let me get it, please don’t let it be in public…or during school. I’d just die if I had to explain it to Mr. Benedict! Thank you.

 Chapter 18

   On March 18, Margaret turns twelve years old. Worried about those raging hormones, she sneaks into her parents’ bathroom and uses her mother’s deodorant. For her birthday, Grandma sends her three new sweaters, a hundred dollar savings bond, a new bathing suit and…a round trip plane ticket. Leaving on a jet plane to Florida, April 4, Margaret can hardly wait!

   The class sings Happy Birthday. Her three friends all chipped in to give her the new (fictional group) Mice Men record. Nancy also sent her a separate, private, birthday card in the mail “You’re the bestest friend a girl could ever have!” implying her relief that Margaret never tattled on her and continued to keep her secret.

   But the day is not perfect. Mr. B announces that for the rest of the month, the entire class has been divided up into groups to study a country and present their report. Margaret can’t believe her ears when she gets stuck with Norman, Philip…and Laura Danker! Janie rolls her eyes at Margaret who raises her right eyebrow back at her. As the boys are scooting their desks over to the two girls, Philip sings that special grade-school version of the birthday song to Margaret who frowns. She most certainly does NOT smell. But her eyes are too busy smarting from the extra hard pinch Philip gave her, followed by a cruel, “That’s a pinch to grow an inch-you know where!” Right then and there, Margaret decides maybe she doesn’t like Philip Leroy that much after all. She glares at Laura Danker, sitting there looking so big and beautiful. This is turning out to be the worst birthday of Margaret’s life.

 Chapter 19

    Rejecting any of Margaret’s suggestions, the group votes Belgium as their topic for the group project. To her dismay, both boys are lousy workers. Philip just sits and reads comic books, refusing to do anything while Norman tries but isn’t the smartest boy in class. While Laura might be a stuck up snob, Margaret has to admit, she’s a good team player.

    One afternoon, the two girls stay after school to use the reference books in the library where Margaret learns Laura won’t be a needing a ride because she’s going straight to confession afterwards. Margaret is surprised. She didn’t know Laura was Catholic but then an argument ensues when Laura points out that Margaret is copying straight from the encyclopedia for their report which is cheating. Margaret’s retort is cold, “So? You’ve already made out with every boy in school. I know all about it.” Laura, understandably, nearly pops a vein. She calls Margaret a “filthy liar” and a “little pig” before storming out of the library, to the dismay of the librarian who has to shush them again for the third time.

    Feeling awful, Margaret grabs her things and rushes after her, following Laura all the way down the street to the Catholic Church trying to explain. Laura overrides her: I’ve had to wear a bra since FOURTH GRADE. Always having to cross my arms in front of my chest, you think it’s FUN being the biggest girl in class? Being called names just because of how you look?”

       Laura is crying. For the first time in her life, Margaret realizes the world does not revolve around her. She is sorry, admits to Laura she wishes she looked more like her. Laura responds she would trade places, and gladly, before disappearing into the church. Feeling awkward, Margaret lingers, waiting, before finally slipping into the church herself. She sees Laura exit from a little wooden door and ducks so she’s not seen. As soon as Laura is out of sight, Margaret approaches the door and decides to investigate. She opens it to find a little room, like a phone booth. She enters, shuts the door, and nearly jumps out of her skin when a Voice speaks:

Yes, my child. (no question mark to this statement which is repeated twice)

It’s not God, Margaret realizes, just the priest but Margaret is too tongue-tied to say anything except she’s sorry. Flinging open the door, she runs for her life out of the church to where her mother is waiting in the car to pick her up. Explaining she’s sick, Mom believes her and Margaret is allowed to go to bed with just bowl of soup that evening which is fine with Margaret because she feels awful.

    Are you there, God…I’m a terrible person, undeserving of anything good from You. I picked on the class whore; said mean things to her. Why did you let me do that? And why can’t I find you? I’ve looked for you in every church-including the one I visited today and we both saw how THAT turned out! Why God? Why can I only feel you when it’s just you and me…?

 Chapter 20

    Things get worse for Margaret. As a result of that Christmas card Margaret’s mom sent (see Chapter 12) the grandparents responded with a letter. Margaret’s dad is not happy when he learns how his in-laws got their new address while Margaret is not happy about the fight it starts between her parents. She screams at them both before stomping upstairs to listen to her birthday record on her stereo, as loud as it can go. Her father enters, turns off the music and makes her read the letter since her name is also mentioned in it.

   This is what it says: So happy to have received your Christmas card. After talking it over with our minister, we have decided to fly out over spring break and visit, specifically Margaret and our wayward daughter-it’s time to reconcile. Because that’s the kind of good, Christian people we are. Look for us on April 3.

    Herb isn’t even mentioned in the letter.

   Now it’s Margaret’s turn to hit the roof. The trip to Florida, the one she’d been looking forward to for weeks to visit her grandmother has been cancelled. She’s VERY upset. Mom places the call to Grandma in Florida so Margaret can explain what happened before bursting into tears. Barbara takes the phone and Margaret can hear her dad greeting his mother as she quietly runs back upstairs and closes her bedroom door. Time to pray.

    Are you there God?...Guess this is my punishment for being such a horrible person. Hope you enjoy seeing me suffer, but, haven’t I always tried to be good? Please, God, make something happen so I can go to Florida anyway. Please…

 Chapter 21

    The visit is VERY awkward. When Margaret and her mother pick up the grandparents from the airport, Margaret stiffens under Grandmother’s kiss. Grandmother is also wearing a large, sparkly cross. Grandpa is thin and bald and doesn’t have much to say. Margaret’s mother spent days cleaning and polishing the house. She cooked a big fancy roast beef dinner to serve. The family even hired a woman to wash the dishes and serve the meal. Everyone gathers in the den for more awkward conversation. When Margaret’s mom leaves the room to pay the hired woman, Grandmother moves in for the kill-scooting over to Margaret to grill her about her life, more specifically her Sunday school attendance. Margaret informs her she doesn’t go. Mom re-joins them and backs her daughter up, explaining to her mother about how they’ve chosen to raise their daughter as a “none.” The adults all start talking about Margaret as if she’s not there. The grandparents insist Margaret is Christian, like mother like daughter. Grandmother takes Margaret’s hand-beseeching-she can still be saved, come back to God, they know she’s really a Christian girl at heart. Unable to take any more of this, Margaret jumps up and screams at them all. She doesn’t need anybody preaching religion to her and she certainly doesn’t need God! She runs upstairs to her room, resolved in her decision.

    She’s never talking to God again!

 Chapter 22

     Next morning, Margaret almost catches herself saying her morning prayer to God. She decides to meet Janie downtown for a movie. Her mother agrees to the trip and drops Margaret off.

    With some time to kill before the movie, they each buy a box of Teenage Softie pads at the drugstore and belts to go with them. Margaret feels as if she’s rebelling at God. She even crossed against the light today just to test Him and nothing happened. Take THAT God! Janie is mortified the clerk at the cash register is a MAN! Margaret just rolls her eyes, marches up and pays for their purchases.

    Back home, she goes upstairs-“school supplies” was all she told her inquiring mother regarding the brown paper parcel-and secludes herself in her room, as if buying feminine supplies before menarche was some kind of sin. She opens the box and holds a pad in her hand, almost reverently. Then, like when she stuffed her bra for the party, Margaret goes into her pitch black closet to try out the pad and belt. She LIKES it. Stashing the supplies in a safe place, Margaret is ready to take on the world now.

    Next morning, the grandparents announce they will be staying in a New York City hotel for the remainder of their vacation with no plans to spend any more time with the Simon family. Margaret’s mom is livid. Dad just smirks. Margaret is annoyed because she could’ve taken her trip after all. A whole week with nothing to do, what a waste!

 Chapter 23

    That night, there’s a knock on the front door. Margaret answers. It’s Grandma! And she brought the man she met, Mr. Binamin-rhymes-with-cinnamon. Good old Grandma. She’s got Margaret’s back! That's why she came especially to take on those Christian in-law hypocrites and offer her moral support. She’s disappointed she missed meeting them but tells Margaret she always knew she was a Jewish girl at heart. Margaret stops her, “No, Grandma, I’ve gone atheist.” You hear that God? Oh, that‘s right, I’m not speaking to you anymore.

    Margaret feigns sleepiness and is excused to go to bed, glad she knows she loves her Grandma and Grandma loves her so it really doesn’t matter what religion she is.

 Chapter 24

    Time to turn in the year-long individual projects. All the other kids have decorated booklets stuffed with essays and photos. Margaret has nothing but a letter and this is what it says:

May 25

 Dear Mr. B, After conducting a yearlong study on religion I have yet to decide which one is right for me. I even read three books on the subject Modern Judaism, A History of Christianity, and Catholicism-Past and Present (while Amazon has books with these titles or similar titles, NONE were published before 1970 so they are obviously fictional)

      I also attended a few different church services to see what they were like: Temple Israel of New York City on Rosh Hashanah, First Presbyterian Church and United Methodist Church both in Farbrook. I also went to confession at Saint Bartholomew but had to leave because I didn’t know what to say. I did not get the opportunity to try Buddhism or Muslim because we live in a very homogenous suburbanite city and these religious groups won’t be making the news headlines for another 40 years anyway…(Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, anyone? Book of Mormon Musical?)

     All in all, this was not a good experience for me. Sorry I flunked the assignment and if I ever have kids, I’m going to force some kind of religion on them, so they don’t grow up as confused as I did. It’s like trying to choose your gender/identity.

     Sincerely, Margaret Ann Simon.

    (Too bad Margaret didn’t put more effort into her project. She actually could’ve learned a lot and filled an entire booklet with journal entries about her different church visits or reports on famous religious leaders and the history of their faith that would’ve met her teacher’s assignment requirements just fine)

    A very solemn Margaret waits until everyone has turned in their booklets and left the classroom so she can hand Mr. B the letter. She waits silently while he reads it until her emotions get the better of her and she excuses herself to hide in the bathroom where she can hear Mr. B calling her name out in the hallway. She splashes water on her face and walks slowly home. Margaret has never felt so low. She almost misses God. But not enough to start talking to Him again.

 Chapter 25

    Last day of school is June 17th. Adult chaperones from the PTA (which include Nancy’s mother) throw a party for the class. Margaret notes NONE of the sixth grade girls wore socks-they all wore silk stockings/nylons instead!

    The four PTSs have lunch downtown by themselves, stressing out over how they will ever survive seventh grade at the ginormous junior high where they won’t know anyone, be constantly lost and probably not have any classes together. Then they all go home and cry.

    While Margaret’s mom is packing her summer camp trunk, Margaret hears the roar of the lawnmower. It’s Moose! He’s back. And does Margaret have a bone to pick with him. How DARE he spread dirty stories about Laura Danker around like that? And she believed them! She marches outside to tell him off-calling him a liar because Nancy said that Evan told her that he and Moose and Laura…um...oh. Margaret's anger dies away as she realizes what she's saying. 

Moose coldly informs Margaret she might want to grow up and not listen to gossip (and maybe not listen to someone like Nancy who is nobody’s friend) until she finds out the truth for herself. Properly chastised, Margaret apologizes then jumps out of the way as Moose fires up the lawnmower again.

    Happy and at peace with the world at last, Margaret goes back inside to use the bathroom. Looking down, she gasps seeing her smeared underwear and hollers for mom to come quick. Mom gets teary. Her little girl! Margaret is emotional too. She’s really on her way now to becoming a woman! Wait until she tells her friends. She never thought God would ever get around to granting her biggest request.

    God!

Are you still there, God? It’s me, Margaret. I know you’re there God. I know you wouldn’t have missed this for anything! Thank you God. Thanks an awful lot…

 

THE END

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